Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Abuse/Neglect of Children is the Root of All of the World's Problems; Punishment Won't Heal, Only Attachment and Need-Meeting

The story of the Plaistow NH father who bruised, bit and broke the bones of his three newborn triplets while the mother stood by passively praying, not calling the police, is just horrifying beyond all belief- The torture these baby boys and baby girl have endured is shocking to the conscience; I imagine for the adults to behave in this manner the same or similar must have been done to them- I have worked with children severely tortured this way as infants and when they are older youth, people expect them to behave normally. When they display severely disturbed behavior, "professionals" label them and do not seem to make the obvious connection between the torment in infancy and their current behavior. People who can't see the connection between childhood abuse (including spanking), neglect as well as poor parent-child attachment and later adult pathology are bound to be blind to the fact that the world's problems are a result of generations of this cycle of abuse and neglect of childen's basic needs. They are equally blind to the fact that healing the world won't be accomplished by punishment and hatred, but by a return to human attachment, bonding and need-meeting.